Aggression/Attraction

Aggression: any physical or verbal behavior intended to hurt or destroy
-in the us, we are much more likely to be murdered compared to most other developed nations

Biology of aggression:
-genetics
-neural influences (is aggression in the brain)
-biochemical

Frustration aggressive principle:
-the blocking of an attempt to achieve some goal
-creates anger which generates aggression

Conflict: a perceived incompatibility of actions, goals, or ideas
-social trap or prisoner's dilemma
-situation where people must choose between an act that is beneficial to themselves but harmful to others and an act that is moderately beneficial to all

5 factors of attraction:
1. Proximity
-geographic nearness
-mere exposure effect: repeated exposure to something breeds liking
-Taiwanese letters
-mirror image concept
2. Reciprocal liking
-you are more likely to like someone who likes you
3. Similarity:
-birds of the same feather flock together
-similarity breeds content
4. Liking through association
-classical conditioning can play a pert in attraction
5. Physical Attractiveness

Passionate love: an aroused state of intense positive absorption of another

Compassionate love: the deep affectionate attachment we feel of those with whom our lives are intertwined

What makes compassionate love work?

• equity: some kind of mutual give and take
• self disclosure: open to people, telling them things about themselves

Altruism: unselfish regard for the welfare of others
-Kitty Genovese case
-bystander effect (bystanders less willing to help if there are other bystanders around)

Social exchange theory: the idea that our social behavior is an exchange process, which we maximize benefits and minimize costs

Peacemaking: give people superordinate (shared) goals that can only be achieved through cooperation
-win win situations through mediation
-GRIT (graduated and reciprocated initiatives in tension reductions)